Hearing that someone hates something you love can hurt, even when there is no hurt intended.
Oh boy yes to this.
I get this a lot with MCU movie canon, especially in adjacent places where there's like this blanket permission to diss stuff with the assumption that everyone must feel the same way and it really screws me up for days. And the thing is it makes me have to put in extra effort to stay in fandom. I'm acutely conscious of this effort I'm having to make because it's atypical of me. It's not like I'm hovering on the edge of "in" or "out" decision, it's more like I have to take a deep breath and bring to mind all the things I love about canon to remember why I'm here. Because for me, once I don't like canon, I move fandoms. I don't stay where I don't like the source material, and so it's so important for me to feel good about it.
I mean, needless to say, chasing creators out of fandom with mean comments is beyond the pale. But I think that happens relatively rarely compared to how often I see people just dismiss certain things as bad because they feel that way, and not realize this isn't a commonly held viewpoint. IMHO anyway.
And also what you said about comradely is so true. The more connected I feel to the people in the fandom the more I creative I feel. The cycle of reader-writer-artist-beta giving each other things is perpetuated on good will after all.
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Oh boy yes to this.
I get this a lot with MCU movie canon, especially in adjacent places where there's like this blanket permission to diss stuff with the assumption that everyone must feel the same way and it really screws me up for days. And the thing is it makes me have to put in extra effort to stay in fandom. I'm acutely conscious of this effort I'm having to make because it's atypical of me. It's not like I'm hovering on the edge of "in" or "out" decision, it's more like I have to take a deep breath and bring to mind all the things I love about canon to remember why I'm here. Because for me, once I don't like canon, I move fandoms. I don't stay where I don't like the source material, and so it's so important for me to feel good about it.
I mean, needless to say, chasing creators out of fandom with mean comments is beyond the pale. But I think that happens relatively rarely compared to how often I see people just dismiss certain things as bad because they feel that way, and not realize this isn't a commonly held viewpoint. IMHO anyway.
And also what you said about comradely is so true. The more connected I feel to the people in the fandom the more I creative I feel. The cycle of reader-writer-artist-beta giving each other things is perpetuated on good will after all.