I don't mind critique when it is part of thoughtful meta, but I wonder if sometimes after a fandom has been having a convo for a while, some meta loses its nuance for shorthand purposes and can become a bit flippant, simplified, scornful, or monolithic, and that's when it can start to hurt feelings.

You know I never have thought about it like that but I think this nails it on the head. For the people engaging in it, this is a shorthand. For me, coming in fresh into The Talk it can feel like a dismissal of the entire thing rather than the nuanced specific thing.

Very interesting point, thank you!