Heh - my feelings on romance and relationships in fiction have pretty much zero bearing on my feelings about them in RL, oddly enough. I don't have much interest in realism in my fiction!
I want reasons to stay in the fandom, though...I love SGA fandom (like a friend feels about another friend! or romantically! whichever!) The show's making it hard for me, though (if you can come up with a good reason why McKay didn't try harder to stop the bridge - please, let me know! That's the part that drove me nuts about the episode, the part that Rodney was so very much not the Rodney McKay I adore that I started to dislike him.)
(4) There *is* something more to a sexual relationship than it being merely the logical extension of another sort of relationship, else people would have a lot more sexual partners concurrently than they tend to.
Hmm, I'm curious what this is a response to - Gero's ideas, or my comments above, or something else. If it's to my comments, I don't actually see sex as a "logical extension" of friendship, but more a possible extension. There are romantic/sexual relationships that aren't based on friendship; however the kind of sexual relationship I most enjoy reading & writing is that with a solid base in friendship. And I like the way adding a romantic/sexual component to a friendship can provide a new framework for the friends to express their love, or give a friendship a more permanent, settled family aspect.
My views on sex are somewhat atypical, however, for personal reasons. What it comes down to is that I like reading/watching friendship, with or without a romantic component; I don't really like romance unless it has a friendship component. So McKeller, lacking sufficient friendshipping, fails for me, and I find Gero putting that relationship above all the relationships that do work for me immensely frustating.
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I want reasons to stay in the fandom, though...I love SGA fandom (like a friend feels about another friend! or romantically! whichever!) The show's making it hard for me, though (if you can come up with a good reason why McKay didn't try harder to stop the bridge - please, let me know! That's the part that drove me nuts about the episode, the part that Rodney was so very much not the Rodney McKay I adore that I started to dislike him.)
(4) There *is* something more to a sexual relationship than it being merely the logical extension of another sort of relationship, else people would have a lot more sexual partners concurrently than they tend to.
Hmm, I'm curious what this is a response to - Gero's ideas, or my comments above, or something else. If it's to my comments, I don't actually see sex as a "logical extension" of friendship, but more a possible extension. There are romantic/sexual relationships that aren't based on friendship; however the kind of sexual relationship I most enjoy reading & writing is that with a solid base in friendship. And I like the way adding a romantic/sexual component to a friendship can provide a new framework for the friends to express their love, or give a friendship a more permanent, settled family aspect.
My views on sex are somewhat atypical, however, for personal reasons. What it comes down to is that I like reading/watching friendship, with or without a romantic component; I don't really like romance unless it has a friendship component. So McKeller, lacking sufficient friendshipping, fails for me, and I find Gero putting that relationship above all the relationships that do work for me immensely frustating.