xparrot | would you like a little RAGE with your RAGE?

So Martin Gero made some comments on the most recent episode of SGA.

"For five years, we didn’t even know it, but all [Rodney] wanted was for someone to tell him that they loved him in an unconditional way."

I want to...I want to kick Martin Gero's head in with a big spiky boot. OF LOVE.

So the love of friends and family (because doesn't Jeannie love him, too? or was she lying when she said "I love you" in "Miller's Crossing" and faking her tears in "The Shrine"?) counts for snot, because it's not romantic, sexual love.

And unconditional love is quoting a guy's own brain-damaged love confession back at him (six months later), and then offering him sex on a plane to make him shut up.

I have no boyfriend! I HAVE NO LOVE! What do I do??? My life is empty! Meaningless!

*cue total fucking mental breakdown*

Okay, now I'm going to do my best to forget this episode ever happened. There's been other eps I haven't enjoyed, but this is the first one that's seriously in danger of spoiling my fanning. It pretty much ruined Rodney's character for me even when I was ignoring the McKeller (I swear, I'd've been almost as outraged if the ep had gone the same way only with John instead of Keller, though at least then I'd have some McShep making out), and now that I am meant to think that banging Keller on the plane is the most significant and important event of Rodney's life in the past five years - yeah. Someone tell me how to hold onto my SGA love, because I don't want to lose this fandom, but the show seems pretty determined to use its dying breath to drive me away.

ETA: I gotta say, SGA these days is really making me appreciate NCIS. NCIS has one s5 ep that is explicitly the 100% opposite theme as this.

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Hmmm... let me see if I can explain this. While I *do* see what you're saying about defining the mystery, on a totally illogical level (which is, of course, the level where we're operating when we fan *g*) it's usually profoundly uncomfortable for me to write or read sex in the context of a relationship that gives off a strong family vibe for me; it trips my incest squick like whoa. I don't have a moral problem with consensual incest and I can even write it if I try (there's canon incest in two of my original stories, actually) but it's still something that squicks me, and though I know "adopted" siblings aren't the same as flesh-and-blood siblings, it still trips the same wires in my head. I've dealt with it in SGA by trying not to overtly think of them as family when I'm reading ship fic ... in fact, come to think of it, I think that's why I've been downplaying the "family" thing in general over the last year or so, both in my fic and in my head -- my preferred mental model for them used to be family/siblings, but it's more like dorm-mates or roommates these days. I can do family; I can do sex; I can't do family having sex with each other, at least in anything other than a profoundly messed-up kind of way. And I've been reading a fair amount of pairing (in different combinations) and OT4 with the team. Innnnteresting ...! Maybe that does explain it, actually, because I had kinda wondered about that; when I typed "brothers" for the John/Rodney relationship, above, it reminded me that back in season three, I used to *love* thinking of them that way, and I really don't/can't anymore. I think this is directly attributable to reading slash; it means that "family" is no-go territory for me now with them, at least in a warm-fuzzy sort of way rather than a weird/screwed-up way.

And I know that this is irrational and just a matter of the sort of boxes where I put things in my head, but when it comes to gut-level emotional reactions to things, it doesn't matter.. Maybe that's one of the big reasons why it's really hard for me to relate strongly to a couple on both a gen and sexual level at the same time.

But your saying this about sex being part of their strangeness makes me think that it might be very interesting to write them that way -- if occasional sex was just more of their weirdness and the undefinability of their relationship; in other words, they'd still be seeking relationships with other people, but also having sex with each other, and trying to explain *that* to people outside the relationship ... I'm very intrigued by that possibility, actually.

Yup...I can get this to an extent; I think the difference is that "family" has multiple meanings to me. So I love siblings, and sibcest can squick me (though I sometimes like it as a twisted kink; I can't see it as warm & fuzzy but as a fucked up obsessive relationship I sometimes go for it.) But for me, an important part of family is the parents: marriage (or the equivalent thereof) is at the foundation of a family.

This, definitely, has a lot to do with internalized definitions of "family"; my experience with happy marriages means that I see them as, if not absolutely necessary to a family, then at least a common element. So I can see chars as brothers sometimes, but if they're not actually related I'm just as likely to see them as a married couple. And, as mentioned, I see a happy marriage as a best friend + sex relationship, so it's not that far a mental/emotional jump for me to make. (and probably why I tend to prefer happy-fuzzy McShep slash, as I see their relationship as pretty healthy to begin with, for all they're weirdos...)

in other words, they'd still be seeking relationships with other people, but also having sex with each other, and trying to explain *that* to people outside the relationship ... I'm very intrigued by that possibility, actually.

Hmmm. I'm intrigued by polyamorous relationships in general, though I admit I have a hard time seeing it with John & Rodney - mainly because I don't see either of them as having particular strong sex drives; the "Kirk" reading of John always strikes me as OOC, and I read Rodney as the kind of guy who wouldn't really get much out of sex outside of the context of a close relationship; he's not interested in sex itself so much as the intimacy (that's just my personal fanon take, not anything canonical!) (And that's another reason why I don't have trouble slashing them; I don't see sex as that important to their lives. At the same time, it helps to slash them in that I do see them as sexually compatible - "my" John is borderline asexual, and Rodney likes sex on occasion but is easily distracted by other things...

would you like a little RAGE with your RAGE?

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