And it's funny that I used to get upset about nasty ship-wars, but now it's like the call's coming from inside the house. No one can harsh my buzz faster than a shipper who ships the same goddamn ship as me who rants up a storm and does it in such a way that implies I'm stupid for still feeling fondly about the ship.
Oh man, this is so true -- negativity is so much worse when it's coming from fans/a community you know. When it's random strangers it can be easier to dismiss, to ignore, to just say they're wrong; but when it's the people who you used to get along with and now you're out of step and at odds -- it's so jarring, and a lot harder to ignore. Especially when it means there's a lot less squee and a lot more buzz-killing.
I'm sorry the fandom got like that -- I've been around for the ends of shows that didn't go well (and sometimes I was on the more negative side, I admit...) and there is often so much hurt from fans feeling betrayed by canon, that people still enjoying the canon can feel like a betrayal in itself, and that can cause people to get even more negative, trying to convince others to see the show in the same harsh light they do. Which then completely sucks for those who are still enjoying what they can. And having to preface everything positive you say with, "okay, I know a lot sucked, but still..." gets exhausting.
I hope you've found at least a few fans who still ship like you do, and hopefully with time things may pick up again...the worst bitterness tends to fade, older fandoms tend to run on happier nostalgia, in my experience...
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Date: 2019-11-18 11:27 am (UTC)Oh man, this is so true -- negativity is so much worse when it's coming from fans/a community you know. When it's random strangers it can be easier to dismiss, to ignore, to just say they're wrong; but when it's the people who you used to get along with and now you're out of step and at odds -- it's so jarring, and a lot harder to ignore. Especially when it means there's a lot less squee and a lot more buzz-killing.
I'm sorry the fandom got like that -- I've been around for the ends of shows that didn't go well (and sometimes I was on the more negative side, I admit...) and there is often so much hurt from fans feeling betrayed by canon, that people still enjoying the canon can feel like a betrayal in itself, and that can cause people to get even more negative, trying to convince others to see the show in the same harsh light they do. Which then completely sucks for those who are still enjoying what they can. And having to preface everything positive you say with, "okay, I know a lot sucked, but still..." gets exhausting.
I hope you've found at least a few fans who still ship like you do, and hopefully with time things may pick up again...the worst bitterness tends to fade, older fandoms tend to run on happier nostalgia, in my experience...