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Additional comment - this whole conversation has been really illuminating to me!
I generally tend to approach slash on the assumption that the writer is working from that point of view that the friendship is inadequate without the sex,
I actually think many slashers are working from the exactly converse assumption: that as much as they might like romance and sex, and want their favorite characters to have those relationships, fundamentally they feel that sex is inadequate without friendship. Many slashers slash because they want romance based in friendship, relationships with a solid foundation that includes sexual attraction, but other elements just as important.
THAT'S why Gero's comment made so many slashers flip their lids, because he was in essence saying that sex is more important than friendship. While as many slashers are, not choosing eros over filios, but rather blending eros and filios, blurring the lines. Gero was delineating them, and putting eros in the highest position, and all the slashers who see them as equally important and crucial to a meaningful relationship resented the implication that the filios they so prize is being entirely overlooked.
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winterfish
Re: Part 2 (edited)
Date: 2008-11-27 04:48 am (UTC)Additional comment - this whole conversation has been really illuminating to me!
I generally tend to approach slash on the assumption that the writer is working from that point of view that the friendship is inadequate without the sex,
I actually think many slashers are working from the exactly converse assumption: that as much as they might like romance and sex, and want their favorite characters to have those relationships, fundamentally they feel that sex is inadequate without friendship. Many slashers slash because they want romance based in friendship, relationships with a solid foundation that includes sexual attraction, but other elements just as important.
THAT'S why Gero's comment made so many slashers flip their lids, because he was in essence saying that sex is more important than friendship. While as many slashers are, not choosing eros over filios, but rather blending eros and filios, blurring the lines. Gero was delineating them, and putting eros in the highest position, and all the slashers who see them as equally important and crucial to a meaningful relationship resented the implication that the filios they so prize is being entirely overlooked.