Hon, I've talked about this with you before, so I don't know how I can explain it better to you. But I'll try. Sex matters NOT AT ALL to me. I don't care about sex by itself. I only care about sex as another tool to show pre-existing affection. To me, John & Rodney having sex is an extension of them playing cars on the pier. I don't see slash - the slash I like - as trumping friendship; I see it as extending friendship. I read gen and slash and I don't prefer one to the other; I don't care if John & Rodney never hook up sexually, as long as they're friends. If they do hook up sexually, I still see them as friends first, and lovers second. It's not the sex I'm responding to; it's the love - the friendship love, the family love.
That's not most slashers; that's me personally. I'm not a normal slasher; I can't speak for them. But that is how I see it.
I do not see any pre-existing affection in Rodney/Keller. I don't see any friendship there. I see them having nothing in common, nothing to talk about, nothing to do together that they'd mutually enjoy, except sex. And that, to me, is a pretty meaningless relationship. So I deeply resent the implication that all the love Rodney has gotten from other people over the years means nothing, and that Keller telling him "I love you" while never showing anything of the sort, except for sex, means more than all the loyalty his team and his sister have shown him.
--oops, gotta go to work, will e you more later. This is a fundamental difference in how we see relationships and sex, so it's really hard to explain, but I'm willing to try!
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Date: 2008-11-25 06:53 am (UTC)That's not most slashers; that's me personally. I'm not a normal slasher; I can't speak for them. But that is how I see it.
I do not see any pre-existing affection in Rodney/Keller. I don't see any friendship there. I see them having nothing in common, nothing to talk about, nothing to do together that they'd mutually enjoy, except sex. And that, to me, is a pretty meaningless relationship. So I deeply resent the implication that all the love Rodney has gotten from other people over the years means nothing, and that Keller telling him "I love you" while never showing anything of the sort, except for sex, means more than all the loyalty his team and his sister have shown him.
--oops, gotta go to work, will e you more later. This is a fundamental difference in how we see relationships and sex, so it's really hard to explain, but I'm willing to try!