Yeah, I'm getting a little burned-out too...as I've said, I find such analysis fascinating, but if I peer too closely into the black box of my own tastes I tend to impede my enjoyment of them...
I think I get confused when SGA-fanning with you because you have been shifting like that - sometimes you come across like a team OT4-er, sometimes you want more, and I keep trying and failing to pin you down! ^^ I'm more used to approaching a fandom from one perspective or another, and if I decide I want something else, I'll just find a new fandom to satisfy my new craving. So with SGA I do like the interdependency aspect (though I like some other relationships too, e.g. I'm really enjoying Woolsey's interactions with them this season, and I love that Teyla got to keep Torren and Kanaan) - but then I also love Doctor Who, which doesn't have any constant relationships, but a lot of shifting characters. I don't have any Who OTPs, which is why I've never been inspired to fic for it, but I enjoy the heck out of watching the show, enjoy meeting new characters and watching their relationships develop and change.
--I really should've thought about Who sooner, because a lot of what you say you like - characters parting and coming back together, getting lives on their own and changing their relationships because of them - is exactly what so appeals to me about the characters in Who. I didn't particularly like that Rose hadn't moved on, and I like that Martha is; and I loved Donna & the Doctor being platonic and didn't want any sex between them. So a lot of the kinks I talk about aren't general or consistent, but specific to particular fandoms; I relate to different characters/relationships in different ways, depending on...I have no idea what, actually! It's a puzzlement...
ETA: (I gotta stop mulling...) I think you and I might see "co-dependency" a little different, too...when I talk about my OTPs, I don't meant a relationship that means everything to the characters, that all they need is each other to be happy and they cannot be at all happy apart. Rather, I like two people being something special to one another, who are something to one another that no one else can be. Unhealthy relationships, where the characters need to be together at all times, like those mated-for-life gazelles that never stray more than ten feet apart - those can creep me out (sometimes I'll like them, but as sort of a dirty kink, not a happy ending...) I ideally want my OTPs to be healthy and happy, which means that sometimes they'll fight and sometimes they'll do their own thing apart, have their own friends and their own jobs and their own hobbies. But I like the idea that if they lost the other person, they're losing something irreplaceable; that no one else could quite be the best friend/lover/whatever that the other person is to them, and they're always going to miss them on some level, even if they're mostly happy otherwise.
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Re: Part 2 (edited)
Date: 2008-11-28 10:12 am (UTC)I think I get confused when SGA-fanning with you because you have been shifting like that - sometimes you come across like a team OT4-er, sometimes you want more, and I keep trying and failing to pin you down! ^^ I'm more used to approaching a fandom from one perspective or another, and if I decide I want something else, I'll just find a new fandom to satisfy my new craving. So with SGA I do like the interdependency aspect (though I like some other relationships too, e.g. I'm really enjoying Woolsey's interactions with them this season, and I love that Teyla got to keep Torren and Kanaan) - but then I also love Doctor Who, which doesn't have any constant relationships, but a lot of shifting characters. I don't have any Who OTPs, which is why I've never been inspired to fic for it, but I enjoy the heck out of watching the show, enjoy meeting new characters and watching their relationships develop and change.
--I really should've thought about Who sooner, because a lot of what you say you like - characters parting and coming back together, getting lives on their own and changing their relationships because of them - is exactly what so appeals to me about the characters in Who. I didn't particularly like that Rose hadn't moved on, and I like that Martha is; and I loved Donna & the Doctor being platonic and didn't want any sex between them. So a lot of the kinks I talk about aren't general or consistent, but specific to particular fandoms; I relate to different characters/relationships in different ways, depending on...I have no idea what, actually! It's a puzzlement...
ETA: (I gotta stop mulling...) I think you and I might see "co-dependency" a little different, too...when I talk about my OTPs, I don't meant a relationship that means everything to the characters, that all they need is each other to be happy and they cannot be at all happy apart. Rather, I like two people being something special to one another, who are something to one another that no one else can be. Unhealthy relationships, where the characters need to be together at all times, like those mated-for-life gazelles that never stray more than ten feet apart - those can creep me out (sometimes I'll like them, but as sort of a dirty kink, not a happy ending...) I ideally want my OTPs to be healthy and happy, which means that sometimes they'll fight and sometimes they'll do their own thing apart, have their own friends and their own jobs and their own hobbies. But I like the idea that if they lost the other person, they're losing something irreplaceable; that no one else could quite be the best friend/lover/whatever that the other person is to them, and they're always going to miss them on some level, even if they're mostly happy otherwise.