It's funny--I saw you being all, "Well, I'm not a typical slasher" etc. above, and I was going to comment, wow, you express my views ENTIRELY--and now here you are, pointing to ME as a "true" slasher. I mean, FWIW, I don't think there's any such thing, though I'd hate "trueness" to be reserved for people who are like, any two guys, though even they, I mean--I don't think they think they're doing any two guys. But whatever. The point of it is, while I certainly don't think of myself as a true slasher, I feel I'm a legitimately "real" slasher--but I'm a friendship junkie, too; I slash for all the reasons you mentioned, and I totally see sex as an extension of deep intimate friendship (the sex is like, the sign of the intimacy)--and moreover, I've written het and shipped het pairings, but they have to be--not even friends, but coworkers, intimates, partners--so yes, Josh/Donna, yes, Mulder/Skully, yes, John/Aeryn, yes even Buffy/Spike, yes even Teyla/John, had they gone there, but no McKeller, no McKatieBrown, etc. My kink is for competency and a kind of surprised already-marriedness: the recognition that you're kind of stuck with this total whackjob but you don't even so much mind, because somehow they've become indispensable. That being said, this is *totally not what I want in my RL*--in my RL, I'm much more like friendshipper: I think codependency is bad and deliberately chose a personal relationship that gives me a lot of freedom. They don't correlate at ALL (I'd murder someone if I was stuck in a Canadian shack with them; hello, I live in Manhattan!) and so while I totally understood her points, it's just not how I read fic.
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Um, more incoherent than normal. sorry
Date: 2008-12-10 08:32 pm (UTC)*goes to look at the other thread*