Even before making a closed community - try laying out firm rules, maybe? If you post, start the post with a warning - PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT EXCEPT WITH SQUEE. Most people will respect that - those that don't, don't answer civilly (you try to argue way too civilly, you're far too kind a person! XP) Just ignore them - delete or freeze if you want, or just comment with a one line, "sorry, that's not how I feel but I don't want to talk about it." I think you might get more disagreement than some fans because you, like < lj user=horridporrid>, have always been open to discussion - and those discussing with you might not realize that they're actually upsetting you (case in point, my own super-argumentative self!)
So, warn them that you're not up for it. This is what I do whenever I want to squee about, say, Doctor Who - because I know how contentious an environment Who-fandom is, and my love of all three modern Companions is very much not the norm. It's great when your fannish love is enough to sustain you through a debate - but there's no shame in explaining that it's not, not this time.
It sucks that SGA fandom has become like this, when it used to be fuzzier for you. But while there's a few genuine flamers about (and yeah, I've seen a couple McKeller fans be just as flamey - no one here, but Lavvyan's drawn a few), I think most fans are still respectful - they're just not aware that they're overstepping bounds.
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Date: 2009-02-25 06:45 am (UTC)So, warn them that you're not up for it. This is what I do whenever I want to squee about, say, Doctor Who - because I know how contentious an environment Who-fandom is, and my love of all three modern Companions is very much not the norm. It's great when your fannish love is enough to sustain you through a debate - but there's no shame in explaining that it's not, not this time.
It sucks that SGA fandom has become like this, when it used to be fuzzier for you. But while there's a few genuine flamers about (and yeah, I've seen a couple McKeller fans be just as flamey - no one here, but Lavvyan's drawn a few), I think most fans are still respectful - they're just not aware that they're overstepping bounds.