Ahh, I didn't mean to cast any aspersions on "true" slashers by denying being one; that spoke more of my own fannish insecurities than anything else. I started out in online fandom as a slash-avoiding hardcore gen-smarm fan, and on occasion I worry that someday it'll be discovered by the Fannish Bureau of Investigation that I still skim the sex scenes in half the fic I read, and they'll take away my slasher's card!
...That being said, yours is some of the fic that I always do read the sex, because it's never just hot smut, it's always saying something about the characters and their relationship and what they mean to each other, and that gets me going like nothing else. Your stuff hits my friendship kink hard - hmm, not even the friendship kink, but what you say, that already-marriedness, that surprise unexpected tied-together-and-nothing-to-be-done-about-it. Which is what does it for me, and which, I think, tends to occur more with male-male relationships in fiction (because m-f tends to be so fraught with "sexual tension" from the beginning that other bonds often don't get developed) - but when it's there in a het relationship, I am all over those pairings. (Mulder/Scully, John/Aeryn, YES; the others I don't know, but would probably go for...)
I totally see sex as an extension of deep intimate friendship (the sex is like, the sign of the intimacy)
Yes, YES, this, exactly. Sex can mean other things too, obviously, but in my OTPs, it's a way to bond; it's not about lust for physical satisfaction so much as the desire to be closer, to share something private and unique...through hawt physical satisfaction XP
And yeah, me too, that what I like in fic has little to do with what I want in my own life. Heck, I'm a happy single these days, and have never wanted children, and yet I enjoy kid!fic on occasion. But then, I love h/c, too, and it's not like I've ever wanted to be buried under an avalanche, no matter how much sympathy and cuddles it would get me; what I want for my favorite characters is not what I want for myself!
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winterfish
Re: Um, more incoherent than normal. sorry
Date: 2008-12-11 08:13 am (UTC)...That being said, yours is some of the fic that I always do read the sex, because it's never just hot smut, it's always saying something about the characters and their relationship and what they mean to each other, and that gets me going like nothing else. Your stuff hits my friendship kink hard - hmm, not even the friendship kink, but what you say, that already-marriedness, that surprise unexpected tied-together-and-nothing-to-be-done-about-it. Which is what does it for me, and which, I think, tends to occur more with male-male relationships in fiction (because m-f tends to be so fraught with "sexual tension" from the beginning that other bonds often don't get developed) - but when it's there in a het relationship, I am all over those pairings. (Mulder/Scully, John/Aeryn, YES; the others I don't know, but would probably go for...)
I totally see sex as an extension of deep intimate friendship (the sex is like, the sign of the intimacy)
Yes, YES, this, exactly. Sex can mean other things too, obviously, but in my OTPs, it's a way to bond; it's not about lust for physical satisfaction so much as the desire to be closer, to share something private and unique...through hawt physical satisfaction XP
And yeah, me too, that what I like in fic has little to do with what I want in my own life. Heck, I'm a happy single these days, and have never wanted children, and yet I enjoy kid!fic on occasion. But then, I love h/c, too, and it's not like I've ever wanted to be buried under an avalanche, no matter how much sympathy and cuddles it would get me; what I want for my favorite characters is not what I want for myself!